Relationship Tips: 3 Things You Should NEVER Say to your Partner; Psychologist Says So

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Love is inevitable for some couples out there in the world. Obviously, anybody who loves their partner so much wouldn’t like to hurt them.

Meanwhile, some accidentally hurt them through words or actions. In terms of words, people just sometimes spit out phrases to their beloved one, even though they don’t mean it. On the other hand, some couples are not sensitive enough on what each their opposite partner would feel regarding whatever word they say to them.

Thank goodness for Alexandra Solomon, Ph.D., as some could now avoid uncertain words to speak to their partner. While some words are obvious not to blurt out. According to Mirror, the clinical psychologist that writes on Psychology Today stated that some of the not too obvious phrases are as follows:

People shouldn’t just point out “If you loved me, you would…” to their partner. This phrase is would then be perceived by the opposite couple to be “manipulative and childish.”

Yet, Dr. Solomon mentioned that what she thinks the right approach would be is “I am having such a hard time understanding what is keeping you from doing this. The story I am telling myself is that you must not love me very much.”

The words, “You’re acting like your mother!” (Or any other family member) was as well noted by the psychologist to never ever say to your significant other since it would trigger their defensiveness. More so, is that it would likely let the person’s loved one feel that something is bad about their family member as identified by Her.

Solomon then said that it’s better to say to the other partner what would be the thing that is irritating about them. Take note as well that in doing that, do not mention something about their relatives.

Last would be the phrase, “Why isn’t it like it used to be between us?” This phrase is most likely asked by people when they feel their partner is already bored with their relationship. In worst cases, the relationship loses its spark. Never say this as Solomon said that don’t fight the reality that love changes. It is still up to couples on how they would maintain that spark.

She then advised that it’s better that people should ask whatever they would want to change or change back in their relationship. The clinical psychologist then concludes on My Domaine that "Love is hard work and bumps in the road are 100% inevitable." Hence, partners should work with each other to get through the rough road and not argue with each other.